Moving to a new home can be both very exciting and extremely stressful…and that is for an adult. Can you imagine what it must be like for children who don’t have all the knowledge, experience and ability to see the big picture that you do? If you are getting ready to make a move that involves your kids, there are some things you should take into consideration as you prepare for the big day.
Just like many other situations in life, your kids look to you for the lead. If you’re anticipating this move with excitement, you will set the tone for the kids; if they see that you are not happy about the move or dreading it, they will certainly become more worried as well. I doubt you will be able to ease all of their concerns however by making some preparations and having a lot of patience with them, the move should go a little smoother for all. I just went through this exact situation myself with my two kids. Trust me – it’s not easy but it can be done and I am seeing them get more settled and comfortable every day. It’s taken a little extra effort though and a realization that what is important to them needs to be handled with a lot of TLC.
Better Homes and Gardens Real Estate published an article addressing the move with kids and I found it to have some very helpful reminders. For a complete list of suggestions, check out the article but here are a few examples:
- Communicate with your child patiently and frequently and let them know what is happening now and what to expect later.
- Show them all the advantages of the move and don’t be afraid to discuss disadvantages they may bring up (and how you plan to overcome those things).
- Involve them in the new home – let them see it before the move, if possible, and help plan out where their belongings will go.
- Know how to address their questions about the things that directly affect them: sports, scouting, school, friends, etc.
- Sticking to the regular routine as much as you can gives them the structure and comfort they are accustomed to.
And always remember, you may be the decision-maker in the family but your kids need to feel involved to reiterate their worth and importance. Good luck to your family!
Happy House Hunting!